This is an odd little kindness I'm sharing here. It isn't even really that kind ... more the opposite! But I am sharing because it took some strength and I'm sharing because I'm proud of me.
Earlier today when I was out shopping with my toddler he was in a real playful mood. Holding my hand, jumping up and down, and swinging on and off me. And quite frankly it peeved me off.
I felt myself getting all worked up inside. It was SO annoying l. He kept yanking on my arm pulling it back one way then the other. I wanted to yell at him. Wanted to 'punish' him. But I didn't.
Instead of reacting instantly to this annoyance I watched it or more so, watched myself. I watched how worked up I was getting. How angry. Then I thought ...
"Really Nicole. Really?. Is this that bad? He is 4. He is bored whilst your dragging him around a shopping centre from shop to shop just for you. Not him. He is bored. This isn't fun for him and he is trying to make it so".
"Let it go". The voice said. "Let it go".
So I did. My toddler continued doing this annoying arm swinging, yanking on me and jumping on me thing. And it continued to annoy and peeve me off. But I didn't react. I didn't yell at him. Make him feel bad for 'having fun'. I allowed it. Allowed him to be him.
And that is what I'm proud of today. It took real effort on my part to be this sort of 'kind'. But without a doubt it was the right thing to do 💜
Earlier today when I was out shopping with my toddler he was in a real playful mood. Holding my hand, jumping up and down, and swinging on and off me. And quite frankly it peeved me off.
I felt myself getting all worked up inside. It was SO annoying l. He kept yanking on my arm pulling it back one way then the other. I wanted to yell at him. Wanted to 'punish' him. But I didn't.
Instead of reacting instantly to this annoyance I watched it or more so, watched myself. I watched how worked up I was getting. How angry. Then I thought ...
"Really Nicole. Really?. Is this that bad? He is 4. He is bored whilst your dragging him around a shopping centre from shop to shop just for you. Not him. He is bored. This isn't fun for him and he is trying to make it so".
"Let it go". The voice said. "Let it go".
So I did. My toddler continued doing this annoying arm swinging, yanking on me and jumping on me thing. And it continued to annoy and peeve me off. But I didn't react. I didn't yell at him. Make him feel bad for 'having fun'. I allowed it. Allowed him to be him.
And that is what I'm proud of today. It took real effort on my part to be this sort of 'kind'. But without a doubt it was the right thing to do 💜
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- Posted by brindlegirl
- Jul 13, 2016
- Comments (12)
Readers Comments
evelyn montez wrote: Good for you nicole! I'm giving you a high five here!
RoseMarie wrote: I love your honesty and your willingness to recognise you are human and share what most of us think but wouldn't be courageous enough to say out loud. Thank you. X 💓
1sher wrote: I feel you sister! You are a rock star! I know exactly the emotions that you speak of- my son just turned 6 and we have finally turned a corner- but those moments and the spaces between action and reaction- well, blessings to your good & hard work!!
splain wrote: You are a really lovely mum
debmeron wrote: What a wonderful story and what a good mom you are...kindness abounds...
Kaige wrote: Parenting is not a cute little ball of nicely packaged goodies all the time. It is CERTAINLY not a uniformed undertaking. There are loads of times when we have all had to pull ourselves back and just take a minute to breathe and evaluate the circumstance presented and see how we need to proceed. You're great Sweetie, keep up the fantastic work.
Mish wrote: I wonder if I could have been as kind ...
dorothy3602003 wrote: Giggle! My daughter was energetic like that. It could be tiring but wow! Awesome too. Like the time I was helping her to count five on her fingers since on her birthday the next day she would be five. She counted to four. I said now add one more finger. She gasped and said " I'm a whole handful!" Yes you are my love yes you are.
mindyjourney wrote: Oh, that let it go!! Remember the feel of 4 yr old son's hand in mine...now that he is grown <3...well done, dear brindle :))
horsegirl21 wrote: Thank you for your honest story :)
