Stories of Kindness from Around the World

19 Lessons Learned From a Friend


--by lisa1223, posted Apr 17, 2014
1. Give money you can spare to someone who needs it and then pretend you never had it.

2. Let someone tell a story without feeling the need to one-up them or tell your own. 3.

Let someone vent, even if you can’t offer a solution, just to be an ear—without considering how well they listened to you last week.

4. Help someone who is struggling with difficult feelings by admitting you’ve felt the same thing—without considering whether they’d be as open with you.

5. Ask, “What can I do to help you today?” Then let it go after following through.

6. Tell someone how you feel about them, even if it makes you feel vulnerable, just to let them know they’re loved and not alone.

7. Apologize when you’ve acted selfishly, even if you don’t like feeling wrong, because it will remind the other person they deserve to be treated with respect.

8. Let someone else educate you, even if you’re tempted to stay closed minded, because you value their knowledge and appreciate their willingness to share it.

9. Forgive someone who wronged you because you have compassion for them, not because you know they’ll owe you.

10. Hold someone’s hand when they feel vulnerable to let them know you haven’t judged them.

11. Give your full attention to the person in front of you when you’re tempted to let your thoughts wander just to show them their words are valuable.

12. Assume the best when you’re tempted to suspect someone for no valid reason—even if they haven’t always given you the benefit of the doubt.

13. Accompany someone to an appointment or drive them to an interview when they need support just to help them feel strong.

14. Change your plans for someone you love if yours weren’t too important without questioning whether they’d do the same for you.

15. Teach someone how to do something without taking a superior position because they’ve likely taught you many things, whether they were obvious or not.

16. Leave a thoughtful comment on someone’s blog, not to build your readership but rather to show them how they affected you.
17. Tell someone you believe in their potential, even if they haven’t always shown you the same support.

18. Say no when it would make you feel good to say yes, because sometimes being kind means pushing someone to step up and try harder.

19. Tell someone you know they meant well instead of using their mistake as an opportunity to manipulate their guilt.
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Readers Comments

Emma Brightwell wrote: Some good life lessons here. Thank you for sharing.
Andy wrote: This a great piece here, i like it
sunnyhel1 wrote: Thanks for a great thought provoking list - some inspiring lessons to try and put into action
Jackie Baird wrote: These are some pretty good lessons. Most of them i know; and i should follow. Maybe i should post them somewhere and read daily. Thank you for sharing and a great reminder how to live a better life.
jimjam wrote: I'm printing this list and posting it on the mirror and try each day to practice one of these suggestions until i've done them all. . . Then do them all over again. Life changing, life enhancing, life affirming goals, every one.
Inspire3 wrote: Looove these! Great list to follow daily! Definitely workin these reminders into my daily life to create a better lifestyle! I liiiike :) thank you for sharing!
ANANTHARAMAN wrote:
We run an ngo promoting volunteerism and supporting grass root ngos. These lessons while being life lessons for any human being, should be part of a volunteer's being. We could also add being smart (simple, moral, accountable, responsive, transparent) to the list. Touched, moved and inspired.
Khush wrote: Such brilliant suggestions to not only shift from me to we but also cultivating mindfulness in every moment :) this one is definitely going up on my softboard as a daily reminder :)
Thank you!
Deepak Sethi wrote: Thank you so much. Touched , moved and inspired. Will implement in my life.
Diane wrote: One more: when someone is struggling, ask them "how can i best support you, right here, right now? "

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