How To Increase Empathy Even With Difficult People And Why It Helps You.
--by AsianWoman, posted Jul 8, 2009
How to increase empathy even with difficult people and why it helps you.
The TOP TIPS: How to increase empathy even with difficult people.
Tip 1: Choose kindness over harshness.
When we can all judge each other more kindly and increase empathy the world will be a much better place. We will experience less conflict, less unpleasantness and greater love and acceptance. That makes it worth it.
Tip 2. Ask the other person how they are.
Tip 3. Imagine sympathetic reasons for the behaviour.
Tip 4. Consider how you may have contributed to the situation.
Tip 5. Stop any bias.
Tip 6. Accept their feelings.
Thus, if people are upset and finding it hard to manage some aspects of their lives, you may express empathy by showing complete understanding of their worldviews. As an example of empathy you might say, "So you are finding it tough at the moment; and feeling short of money is stressing you out and making you anxious".
Another example of empathy might be when you are talking to someone about the death of her or his cat. You may not like cats. You may also think that it had a good life as it was 19 years old when it died. You may thus not see what all the fuss is about. However, the person is deeply saddened by the cat's death and feeling at a loss. Instead of showing a lack of empathy, and saying, "You must expect these things when your cat is so old," you might show more empathy if you said, "It's going to be hard for you not to have your cat around after all these years."
Irrespective of your own personal view, expressing empathy demonstrates you understand another person's view and can suspend your own.
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