I was out shopping today and ran into a very old lady who I had known years ago. She doesn't speak much English , so I nod a lot. and smile. What I did understand was her husband has had to go into care. I was holding her hands and she started to tear up. Next thing she threw herself into my arms and cried her heart out.
She is heart broken to be without her husband. we were sitting on a bench and she stayed in my arms for at least 5 minutes and I thought she would break if I let her go. I just kept quiet and held her.
She finally moved away and I was nearly crying. I wiped her face and kissed her on her checks. She kept saying I am sorry. But I stopped her and just smiled. She then was calm and I felt her hurt so much.
How hard must it be to have this happen in a marriage of nearly 60 years to be separated from someone you so love. Becoming old and frail is not easy and we all need to be aware of the great loneliness that faces many elderly. I will stay in touch and visit her. The connection between us was so much. It was a gift to me.
She is heart broken to be without her husband. we were sitting on a bench and she stayed in my arms for at least 5 minutes and I thought she would break if I let her go. I just kept quiet and held her.She finally moved away and I was nearly crying. I wiped her face and kissed her on her checks. She kept saying I am sorry. But I stopped her and just smiled. She then was calm and I felt her hurt so much.
How hard must it be to have this happen in a marriage of nearly 60 years to be separated from someone you so love. Becoming old and frail is not easy and we all need to be aware of the great loneliness that faces many elderly. I will stay in touch and visit her. The connection between us was so much. It was a gift to me.
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- Posted by splain
- Apr 11, 2016
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Readers Comments
Mish wrote: You gave of yourself & an open-hearted share of release was gifted to her. Being up in years, I do have the occasional thought of what my life would be like if I am the one left & I just can't imagine the loss. I try not to let myself dwell there. You are a very beautiful sensitive soul & feel so deeply& give of yourself generously. Bless you x
brad2 wrote: 60 yrs, wow, I feel for this woman, (my wife passed away 8 yrs ago), it's tough losing someone, bless you for being there for her...peace.
marleen wrote: Here too, if an elderly partner goes into care, both have to do without each other most of the time. There is no room to move the partner too.. So sad!
terre wrote: Such a blessing you were for her, and for yourself. I think that compassion is something that hasn't been easy for you, and what happened here is wonderful and amazing! Welcome to your true self, Susanna!
gyrocloudy wrote: Wow! New souls connected! :D Well done!
mindyjourney wrote: thank you for the comfort of your caring arms and compassionate listen and heart <3...you, dear friend, were her angel <3.
alisamom wrote: You did such a wonderful thing, just sitting with her and holding her and taking the TIME! Just great <3
leoladyc728 wrote: you showed this woman such compassion. Thank you.
AndiCas wrote: Susanna I want to reach through the internet and hug you. Thankyou for being there for this lady. Your hug will have meant the world to her xxx
pluto178 wrote: Holding her hand opened a floodgate its amazing how powerful that can be.........my son held a woman's hand recently and she was overcome because she said nobody has held my hand in years.............so simple yet so effective. x
