March To Your Own Drummer
--by cabbage, posted Jan 21, 2009
A few days ago I was about to begin teaching a class when one of my students came up to me and said she had to talk to me---she seemed quite upset and close to tears so I took her out in the hallway to find out what was wrong. She started sobbing uncontrollably and told me that she'd been feeling so stressed out and depressed because her mom was pressuring her to go to medical school and she didn't want to--- she felt like she'd be letting her mom down if she went against her wishes and she felt very helpless.
I asked her what she wanted to do and she said she wanted to work in the biotechnology industry. I told her that she would be really good at that (since I have her for a lab class, I know that she's really good) and that she should try to get a job in a biotech lab and show her mom that she could earn her own living doing that. I told her that she's really bright and talented and would do very well in that career and that I would be happy to talk with her more about her career path. I also told her that med school is a big committment and that she should not do it because of her mom's wishes. I told her that I understood how hard it was on her and that I was sure she would find her own path--after all it is her life.
I even asked her if she wanted me to talk to her mom. After lots of hugs and reassurances from me that she didn't have to go to med school if she didn't want to.... Just having someone listen and encourage her was enough.
She returned to class with a new attitude. It was as if I saw a big weight being lifted from her shoulders and she was ready to begin anew.
We all just have to march to our own drummer......
and sometimes it takes a lot of courage to do that. "
Really wise words.