I would like to share a story that I just told a KS friend about in a comment... since only she saw it I thought others might enjoy and learn from it...There is someone on KinSpring whose posts sort of annoyed me. I asked my friend about them and she replied with kindness (as she always does). This made me rethink my own reaction. I was able to something positive in this person's posts and sent this person Karmabucks with thanks for that positive thing I noticed.
This felt so good as it was a stretch for me. Ordinarily I would have just continued to be annoyed every time I saw a post or at the most just ignored them. This was a way for me to show to myself that I could find something good in everyone and show kindness to everyone. It is easy to show kindness to those we love and admire and respect and have all kinds of positive feelings towards. It is much harder to show kindness to those who annoy us or make us angry or push our buttons in one way or another. That is much more of a challenge and so therefore more important.
I did a kindness which was appreciated by this person (I did get a lovely response) but just as important it was a way for me to really grow in kindness... and that is exactly the kind of thing that KS inspires in me and so many other.
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- Posted by debmeron
- Jun 16, 2016
- Comments (14)
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Vandana Chhatpar wrote: I was taught by my mother that " god will see our soul, people will see our face " so, do we wish to purify our soul or our face? Of course our soul. And in order to do so, learn to purify our thoughts, actions and deeds and be ready to face god.
Virginia wrote: Everyone's comments are so good. I add that we shouldn't guess what the motivation for the post was or what the backstory really is. The mirror effect is one i see in myself when something bugs me. I recently reached out to someone i knew after she 'scolded me' in an e-mail and ignored the opportunity to congratulate me on what i had accomplished. She apologized quickly stating she sometimes forgets to take off her business hat.
To all, this post is a good reminder that our perceptions are not necessarily the true reality.
To all, this post is a good reminder that our perceptions are not necessarily the true reality.
Chris wrote: I'm so thankful you shared your story. It's a wonderful reminder to me. As the question goes, " would you rather be right or kind? "
Pete wrote: Thank you for sharing that story deb,this happens to me not infrequently when reading someone's post or listening to a guest on one of the many summitt shows. I can sometimes go off into a story in my head thinking negative thoughts about them and their opinion and going into judgement about someone that i really don't know.
Your post has done the opposite and has reminded me to stop doing it and at the very least stay indifferent and at the best have some understanding for others points of view that i happen to disagree with. A big thanks!
Your post has done the opposite and has reminded me to stop doing it and at the very least stay indifferent and at the best have some understanding for others points of view that i happen to disagree with. A big thanks!
Mish wrote: I see you "blooming" here, Deb. I so love watching these KindSpring transformations that being part of this community brings about for us. Beautiful bloom by you 🌺
mnc_91 wrote: Thank you, Deb for this very honest sharing :-)
lya348 wrote: Sometimes when we are annoyed by something it's holding a mirror up to ourselves or points out an area that we have an opportunity for growth in. Sounds like it was the growth for you and you did it beautifully!
AndiCas wrote: Lovely story. Thanks for sharing it.
balou wrote: A really beautiful way to work with your own feeelings - and to make you (and this person) feel good (better) about it :-)
brindlegirl wrote: I agree with the other person previously who thanked you for your honesty. It's so refreshing and nice too see. I also see you growing and 'blooming ' as Mish said. Don't ever stop bring you gorgeous one xox
