Ever happened to have a stranger looking at you with eyes full of anger out of the blue?
It was painful and confusing, but sure a great lesson. First thing that passed through my mind was that it must be a misunderstanding, such a look was not meant for me, but later I saw the old lady’s face changing every time she saw me, at least seven times, no more doubt that she was very angry with me.
I was confused, shocked, and near anger, my brains were spinning, trying to figure out how’s and why’s but somehow managed to not show it on my face. Went home, slept a night over it and decided that I have to find a way to make peace with this lady.
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The very next day I bought some nice chocolate praying to see her again and when I caught sight of her, went straight to her and apologized telling her “I am so very sorry if I angered you, I had no such intention, please accept my apology”, and handled her the chocolate. Surprised, she told me not to mind her, and apologized too. It was an awkward moment, but we made peace and the grimaces are replaced by smiles now.
I am very grateful for this experience, it shows me I still have plenty of work to do with my mind, I learned how it is not easy to take knowledge of, accept and forgive acts that we may feel as unfair, and it taught me of possibilities about fixing a conflict. Best advice to keep for myself?
Do not react, do not be quick to judge, sleep it over, and throw in a pinch of empathy for self as well as others.
It was painful and confusing, but sure a great lesson. First thing that passed through my mind was that it must be a misunderstanding, such a look was not meant for me, but later I saw the old lady’s face changing every time she saw me, at least seven times, no more doubt that she was very angry with me.
I was confused, shocked, and near anger, my brains were spinning, trying to figure out how’s and why’s but somehow managed to not show it on my face. Went home, slept a night over it and decided that I have to find a way to make peace with this lady.
The very next day I bought some nice chocolate praying to see her again and when I caught sight of her, went straight to her and apologized telling her “I am so very sorry if I angered you, I had no such intention, please accept my apology”, and handled her the chocolate. Surprised, she told me not to mind her, and apologized too. It was an awkward moment, but we made peace and the grimaces are replaced by smiles now.
I am very grateful for this experience, it shows me I still have plenty of work to do with my mind, I learned how it is not easy to take knowledge of, accept and forgive acts that we may feel as unfair, and it taught me of possibilities about fixing a conflict. Best advice to keep for myself?
Do not react, do not be quick to judge, sleep it over, and throw in a pinch of empathy for self as well as others.
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- Posted by laughingsoul
- Oct 20, 2016
- Comments (12)
Readers Comments
splain wrote: This was an unusual thing to happen. Lovely that you said sorry and told her you didn't mean to upset her. Nice give with the chocolates.
leoladyc728 wrote: wonderful way you dealt with it.
RoseMarie wrote: Very unusual encounter but yiu handled it beautifully well done. X
melnotes wrote: It is an unusual situation but you handled it well and learnt something in the process, well done.
mindyjourney wrote: thank you for reaching out with kindness (and chocolates) to brindge a connect of understanding :).
Mish wrote: You chose kindness. So well done!! Bless
mnc_91 wrote: Wow, what a proactive kindness under pressure :-)
Novice50 wrote: Beautiful and brave.
kjoyw wrote: Handled so beautifully!
123ABCD wrote: I like this story! Thank you for sharing! Good job in the way you handled the situation. <3
