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I Love YOU More!

--by Modestobob, posted May 14, 2009

I wanted to share a thought on a game my wife, Denise and I play with each other. It’s called “I love YOU more!” I make it a part of my day to tell her that I Love Her. And she does the same thing with me. She’s pretty loveable and so it’s always been easy all these years to say it and to mean it. And maybe that’s one of the reasons that we’ve been married so long, (33 years).

What I’ve realized though, is that there are days that “I love Her more” than she loves me and visa versa. Because of this we have a relationship where the power of that love is constantly shifting. In a funny sort of way, I’ve found that the person who loves the least that day, is the one with the most power in the relationship as they actually need more love to get through their day. Therefore the best relationships are actually where the power is constantly shifting and vacillating from one person to the other. Afterall, there’s times we’re up and times we’re down in any relationship right?
Everyday, whether I love her more or she loves me more, we tell each other how much we love each other and as the result. it makes us both feel more secure and grounded in our relationship. Together we know we can conquer almost anything that comes up. After all, she’s also my “Best-est friend too!” Love isn’t just an emotion or a feeling, but it’s a decision and a commitment to one another.
Gosh I’m so glad I found her 37 years ago and married that girl! I Love YOU More Denise!
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Readers Comments

praveenHP wrote: Nice to hear. I found my soulmate. But she walked off me recently.
lilrobbie408 wrote: I hope that someday i too can experience this kind of marriage/love so strong/friendship with that very special someone someday, i have had three failed marriages, i am 43 and started to give up hope recently. This gives me hope again. Thnx.
Bluebell wrote: I know my husband for 24 years now (times goes by fast) and we are married for 10 years now. We do tell each other how much one loves the other but also why, and that makes a lot of difference, because it's not just a "I love you" and "I love you too" it's more than that, it is I love you because I love your kindness, I love your patience, and each of us re-afirm the others qualities and I believe our love is stronger by the day because of our "I love you because". Many, many thanks for sharing your story and may we all be here 50 years from now celebrating our beloved twin souls.
AURELIA wrote: I too have been married for a long time! When starting dating 32 years ago and have been married for 27! We too say I love you and I love you more, I love you better, I love you best, I love you to infinitely and back !!!! I never thought about the power constantly shifting and vacillating from one another. You are absolutely right! Sometimes we’re up and others we’re down .... thank you for bring this to my attention. I am sure we will make 50 years now, God Willing :) Thank you for sharing you "Wisdom" :0) I am going to share it with others too. ~Aurelia
sethi wrote: For me Bob, love is a feeling, marriage is all about partnering and relatioships are work. Both partners
have a fifty - fifty partnering to make the marriage succeed. This has been my experience and have been married 40 years.
makesomeonesmile wrote: As long as love is there, it will find a balance, whether some days it is more for you or for her. The key is that you are both blessed with love!
JuneBug wrote: Even though my husband and I have only been married a little over a year and a half, we know the importance of saying ''I love you''. These are generally the last words we hear from each other at the end of the day. If he says it first, I always respond ''I love you more..'' It's a good feeling to be so secure in a relationship! I envy the rest of you for being married that long cos I know from previous experience it isn't easy. It's a daily thing and it is what you make it between two people....Congrats to you all. Wish us newly weds luck...He's gonna need it! LOL!!!! :)
lovebug wrote: A very deep insight, this shifting of a persons emotional needs from day to day. I am very secure in my knowing how much my husband love, he never needs to show it.
starbrite wrote: Wow! I've been married almost 37 years and even though a day doesn't go by that we don't say "I love you" I never gave much thought to how true 'I love you more" really is. When one of us says 'I love you' the other says "I love you more" with a smile. You made me think of how true 'love you more' is. Great post. Thank you for you insight. ~StarBrite

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