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Home Is, Where Again?


--by timcollardey, posted Jan 11, 2010

This economy has really got a lot of people moving and not always by a choice they wanted to make.  My wife and I now find ourselves among those unfortunates feeling that pressure.

You see, at the end of last year, our counseling and consulting clientele just dried up.  Having been self-employed meant not being eligible for unemployment assistance.  As we did the math looking at retirement savings that was half-gone and quickly draining away, we had to make the painful decision to close up our office and put our house up for sale.  We haven’t lived in the house for two years yet and figured it would be the last one for a long time.  How quickly this world economic mess is changing our lives!

As I get older, I find moving less adventurous and more burdensome.  It’s not just the strain on my body that bothers me as much as the confusion and disruption from feeling forced to make such huge life transitions.  This time, just to add to the heaviness, we’re in the process of moving without knowing where we’ll arrive next.  Job searching has been thrown into the quagmire of an unsettled life.  Experts can debate all they want about whether we’re in a depression, but both my wife and I have been feeling pretty depressed from all this.  I’ve been challenged to find the upbeat in all this down that’s beating us.

But then it happened while I watched my wife packing things up.  She’s an absolute whiz when it comes to packing.  She’s the kind of person who would have really done well on one of those tests where you have to figure out how to put different shaped pieces in all the different holes.  If all she has is a round peg and a square hole, she figures out how to make it fit anyway.  I took delight in watching her size up just the right boxes for everything in front of her and filling in the gaps with pillows and towels.  Her boxes are solid!  I began feeling something like a wind lift me up and sail me through my own share of the packing and loading.

Home is wherever we are together regardless of where we go.  I have faith that we’ll move through this transition drawing strength and courage from countless kindnesses we’ll both give and receive along the path. 

Some friends will be helping us with the moving.  I’ve told them that they’re not losing friends but gaining some new vacation spots.  And I always take delight in getting to know the strangers who will be involved in our lives because of this kind of change.  We all will always have work to do, by choice or otherwise, and we can consciously make the effort to create a sense of home between us if we just try.

Home is where the heart is, and right now, ours is in moving.  Before long, it’ll be in some new place to live and work and getting to know new friends, new “home mates.”  Along the way, your stories on this website will be another source of that beautiful breeze that sails me through heavy times.  Thank you for that inspiration!

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Readers Comments

lindsgran wrote: good luck to you and your wife, in whatever life brings you. and how lucky your new neighbours will be having friends like you
God Bless
bluebell wrote: Good luck for your move. Keep your spirits hight as much as possible, and keep us posted we your lovely stories. God Bless you and may He give all the strength you need to start your new life. Love and Light, Bluebell
JuneBug wrote: You have such a wonderful attitude about something most others would not. You sound like you are well matched with a lady who will always be with you thick and thin. You have many blessings and know it !! Let us know about your adventure in life and where it has led you ...:)
Aurelia wrote: Hang in there Tim. You're gonna make it through this. I am glad to hear you and your wife were able to make some difficult decisions together...moving isn't easy...but keep your smile and new friends will be drawn to you :)
God Bless and Good Luck!
Aurelia wrote: Hang in there Tim. You're gonna make it through this. I am glad to hear you and your wife were able to make some difficult decisions together...moving isn't easy...but keep your smile and new friends will be drawn to you :)
God Bless and Good Luck!
v.g.sundar wrote: My heart is with you. God's ways are mysterious and i pray that you are led by the holy spirit in all that you do. God brought you to this and god will see you through this. Some times god takes away everything so that he can show the right way!
liztree wrote: Tim - some days may be tougher than others, but remember that its hard to see how the dots connect in the moment. Later, you may see that this upheaval was the dot that connected you to the happiest period of your life.


I wish you must strength and joy in all the small miracles. Much love - liz
timcollardey wrote: Follow up to this story: http://www. Helpothers. Org/my/story. Php? Op=view&sid=13109
My deepest gratitude to all of you here, who foster such kindness!
Shamini wrote: You and your wife will be fine. God bless you both.
Jacinda wrote: Tim good luck and best of wishes to you both on the move. What a wonderfully positive attitude you have! Happy moving :) best of wishes for 2010! Would love to hear your adventures on your new journey after your move. God bless :) love & smiles, jacinda

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