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Buttons For Benjamin (update)

--by DotMatrix, posted Dec 20, 2019

365 Small Acts of Kindness in Honor of My Missing Son, Benjamin Morse Archer

I'm still keeping my promise to do small acts of kindness for 365 days. I began on February 21st of this year, Ben's birthday. I haven't missed a day. The hardest part I knew would be documenting everything, and I was right. I was getting really overwhelmed and stressed by this.  I didn't want to break my promise, so I compromised. I wouldn't write anything down or post blogs, but I would keep my promise by checking in with myself each night before bedtime.

At first, I felt like a complete cop-out.  I had promised to do this publicly.  I was so ashamed, I changed every blog that talked about Buttons for Benjamin into a private admin-view only.  I don't think anyone was judging me though, except for me.  I'll make those blogs public again as I get time this week. 

It's been 102 days and 102 little lights (counting today). This makes me think of candles on a big birthday cake. I was also thinking that, if I had done SAOKs every single day since I joined KindSpring, there would be 1,675 candles on that cake! Hmm.

Since joining Kindsping, my kindness muscles have been growing.  Even better, I stopped beating myself up for not being able to do everything I used to be able to do. By your compassion and kindness, I learned my small gifts, like these daily graphics, were helping in their own little way. 

I don't go to sleep now without making sure I did some small act of kindness that day. There have been days when it's simply me going to the mirror and saying, "You're strong and awesome and I am proud of you." That is a tough one for me, so I consider it an act of kindness when I can do it.  Most days, I get to light the darkness at little for others around me, too.

Thank you for your prayers and good thoughts since Benjamin disappeared 3 years and 93 days ago. The love and kindness since day 1 have been my raft in the storm.

So grateful.
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Readers Comments

Ruth Heyes wrote: Wow what a way
To honor your son. Blessings to u.
SeaMar67 wrote: Dear dot, i have not forgotten. In solidarity with you today, i do a small of act of kindness with great love.
gardengal10 wrote: You know, this is between you, yourself and Ben. Praying that you find peace and an answer. Hugs and more hugs.
Mish wrote: You are, and do, more than you give yourself credit for, dear Dot. Blessings of Light for you & Ben. 🙌🏻
leoladyc728 wrote: blessings to you and Ben
DANCE wrote: You are an inspiration, bless u
kjoyw wrote: Blessings and prayers continue for you and for your dear Ben. 🙏🙌🙏
Kmbhai wrote: You are great..
Kmbhai wrote: We are with you.
mindyjourney wrote: Thank you for your beautiful reflective post, dear dot. Kindness has soooo many facets and faces...we are blessed to realize each!

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