A Spouse's Space to Feel
--by melaniep, posted Dec 4, 2020
On Friday, I found out that I may have cancer, and we are now on the treadmill that follows that sort of news. He was trying to be supportive and strong for me, but I could see that there was something fragile behind the strength and realized that his childhood nightmares were there - he loves me, and he might lose me.
So I told him every day we will spend some time where he isn't strong for me; time when he can cry, and rage, and be silent, or whatever it is that he needs to help him cope with what we are both going through. Then we get back to fighting this as a team, because I promised him he would never lose me, and I'm damned if I'm going to break that promise to him.