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A Double Dose of Compassion at the Grocery Store


--by drlpasquinelli, posted Feb 22, 2011

I was getting out of my car at my local supermarket one night and a woman with a backpack approached me asking for money.  I offered to buy her a sandwhich and she told me that she had a partner as well.  I said I would buy him a sandwich too.

On the way into the store she told me she was an alcoholic and I offered a suggestion about an nearby AA meeting.  She said she had been clean and sober for years but then had an injury in which she she was put on pain relievers and then turned back to alcohol.  I was compassionate and told her to return to AA if she could - she would find support there. 

She thanked me and seemed very grateful then looked straight at me and said she didn't need anything to eat, she just needed a dollar for a beer and understood that I probably didn't want to give her money for that.  I told her that I would much prefer to buy her food but would give her a few dollars for her to do with what she wanted.  She gave me a hug and told me that she knew I really cared and she was grateful for my realness and kindness with her.

I continued my shopping thinking about her and eventually got into the check out line behind a very thin, disheveled and elderly looking man.  I soon realized that there was a hold up in line because this gentleman's bank card kept being rejected so he kept having to take groceries away in order to decrease his total.  I noticed that the only food was a package of hotdogs, the rest was vitamins.  He was angry and couldn't seem to figure out why nothing was going through.  In the end, he was unable to buy anything and left the store visably upset and empty handed.  I felt unsure about what to do-not wanting to embarrass him more than he obviously already felt.

I quickly checked out and took out an extra $20 to give him if I could still catch him in the parking lot. I hurried out and found him in the middle of the lot looking confused.  I approached him and softly said I didn't know what happened in there but I wanted to give him this - I handed him a $20 note and a Smile Card.  He seemed dumbfounded and just stared.  I told him to have a pleasant night and left.

I felt blessed that I was able to touch and be touched by two people's lives that night. 

 

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Readers Comments

Miss wrote: Thank you for not refusing the young woman money for beer. My husband is 8 years sober through aa and god. The woman was honest with you and a beer would stave off the the dt's ( with drawal tremors). Going through the dt's is terrible on its own, let alone on the street unsupervised. Your money through that beer may have saved that womans life. I hope she gets sober soon, but don't let anyone guilt you about that decision.
Pat wrote: What a wonderful, compassionate heart you have. Even though you knew what the lady was going to buy with the money, you gave it to her anyway. I am a recovering alcoholic, so it really touched me more than most folks, i do believe, because i can empathize with how the lady felt. And then to go on and help out the elderly gentleman. As i said, what a compassionate heart you hve. God bless you!
angel3 wrote: You are such a beautiful soul. God bless you.
joy wrote: Thanks for sharing the story and spreading kindness and compassion
CharlieB wrote: Thanks for sharing that inspiring story; reminds me that i am right to give a few dollars as well as food when i see folks in need; the decisions about what to do with it are not mine to make.
intentionalB wrote: What a gift your opportunities were for all involved. And you came through with kindness, respect and gratitude. Thank you for sharing your story. And for honoring that when we share, it's not up to us to decide what happens next. Wonderful!
momov3 wrote: I've commented many times about there are so many opportunities all around us and all it takes is us paying attention. You, obviously, are one to look around in your world and take action. What you wrote made me smile, because it sounds exactly like something i would do. I especially appreciated that with your first encounter, you had information that could help (aa), but did not judge and helped even though you knew what the money was going to be used for. Hard choice, but you kept your mind and heart open and were able to bless the elderly gentleman too! Your kindness angels were busy that day! Your compassion shines through. Thank you for sharing-it gives me hope that we can still have a kindness revolution!
Mymoena wrote: You sre so blessed,that god sent two blessing in 1hour what about the other hours of the day?
Ollie wrote: God bless your kind and loving heart.
seattlegirl wrote: You are very compassionate and kind, thank you!

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