My step-son is going through an extremely difficult time in his life and is battling many personal issues.
He calls his father several times a day, often consumed by sadness and negativity, sometimes near his breaking point. Trying to be supportive and non-critical takes it's toll on us all, but we keep trying.
This morning on our drive to work I asked my husband to try ending the telephone conversation with his son by simply saying, "Now, tell me something good about today".
Some days that might be an easy thing to do, other days it may be nearly impossible. But even if the only thing he could can up with to say is, "You were there for me again today, Dad," that would at least give him something positive to focus on.
Tonight, I heard my husband say to his son, "Okay, now let's end on a positive note. Tell me one good thing about your day".
His son said, "Oh, okay, well ... today there were lots of good things." And he proceded to share a few positive moments in his day.
At least for today, for this conversation, it was a happy ending. And that is what his father and I will focus on for today!
Try always ending on a positive note - and make a difference in your world!