Readers Comments
Rita wrote: 3 hours is not that long to drive to be by someone. What if they lived on another continent? I once drove 1 1/2 hours to my mom's place and drove back another 1 and 1/2 hours, in the same day. Wasn't that bad at all. Now if i move to another city, it would take me 15 1/2 hrs. To drive there and 15 1/2 hrs. Back. So you can see theres a big difference. I'd much rather drive only 3 hrs. , then 15 1/2 hrs. Each way! Plus she can have a break and not drive 3 hrs. There and 3 hrs. Back. I hope you can find the time to visit your mom twice a month! It would be so worth it! You are so fortunate too have your mom with you. If your brother bought his mom a smartphone, then you could text each other for free with text+.
IhanaElama wrote: You are doing such a valuable thing! I wish i will have a daughter like you, when i'm old :) my grandmother also had parkinson's and she passed away while i was living abroad. I wish i had been more present in her life.
Rita wrote: I see no reason at all that your mom couldn't live with you. Then you can help her if she needs it. That would help her a lot. Go to nuts. Com and look in the organic section for a good selection of inexpensive, very healthy treats/goodies. I know i get too busy to do what i want lots of times, but couldn't your brother put everything aside at least once a month, and go visit his mom? Maybe he can, if your mom could room with you!
jsmc10 wrote: You're so wonderful helping your mum :) I like your perspective on depression, it is hard to see it like that when you are feeling so depressed though :/
AURELIA wrote: 3 Hours is a long way. I know how you feel about the separation. I am 16 hours from my dad. Your brother is wonderful to support you and help you to get to see your mum. Enjoy your time together and take lots of photos. One day your memories and photos will bring you great comfort when you think you didnt do enough...you will see you did lots! :0) I hope you share many more SMILEY days together! ~Aurelia
cf wrote: Thanks for your comments, Aurelia, jsmc, Mish. It's because I really want to make the journey TOGETHER with her that I would love for her to live with me, and that is such a miracle after many, many estranged years where our roles were reversed... Thanks for the idea with the pictures, I just got a smartphone (present from my brother) and will do so next time I see her! Once a month now, yippee.
MakeSomeoneSmile wrote: Bless you cf for your wonderful approach to this. I am sure spending some time with you like that mattered so much, as you saw from her being invigorated! It makes so much of a difference and good for both you and your brother for your loving kindness! :)
Mish wrote: Having made the "aging parent journey" with my mom, I am glad have your brother to share this with.
There were many "gifts" along with the stress for me in our journey & I wish you all a "kind" journey together. Bless you for caing as you do for your mom.
There were many "gifts" along with the stress for me in our journey & I wish you all a "kind" journey together. Bless you for caing as you do for your mom.