Stories of Kindness from Around the World

Love Thy Neighbor


--by Joe Slevcove, posted Jul 22, 2007

When my wife, Beth, and I moved from the suburbs to a warehouse loft in the center of a large city, Beth embraced every aspect of urban life -- even the sirens, the parking problems, and the car alarms at night. The homeless people made me nervous, but Beth learned their names. The only neighbors who bothered her were the guys who ran the tattoo parlor across the street. They got into traffic-stopping fights, harassed women on the sidewalk, and intimidated men. They were the reason Beth didn’t walk on that side of the street. For two years she glared out our window at the row of men sitting in
front of the shop and fantasized about shooting out their tires.

Then one day she called me at work to tell me she was getting a tattoo. She’d never wanted a tattoo before and had even taken pride in being one of the few people in our group of friends with no body art. Though surprised, I said "okay". Later she called me back and announced, “I did it.”

When I got home, Beth excitedly showed me the delicately inscribed words “Love thy neighbor” on her wrist. She explained how she’d marched across the street and gone into the tattoo parlor. The walls were covered with drawings of skulls, bloody knives, naked women, and the Virgin of Guadalupe. Manuel, the proprietor, was working on somebody’s  backside. Beth introduced herself as his neighbor and asked if she could watch. He said sure.

After a while, she went outside and sat in front to study the world from their perspective. The guy next to her asked what she was getting done.

“‘Love thy neighbor,’ ” she muttered.

“Why?” he asked.

“Well, you guys are my neighbors, and I’m having trouble loving you. You kind of scare me — you know, with the fights that break out over here and all.”

He ushered her back into the shop and announced, with complete sincerity, “Manuel, dude, we’re scaring our neighbors! We got to stop fighting.”

Manuel was defensive — until Beth explained that she didn’t want to change him; she just wanted to get this tattoo.

Manuel showed her a picture in a magazine of “Love thy neighbor” tattooed on a man’s inner forearm — with bloody knives in the background.

“Not exactly,” said Beth.

After they’d settled on a design, Manuel began to do his art on her wrist. Then he stopped. “How do you spell thy?” he asked shyly. “I didn’t go to school.”

The other tattoo artist piped in, “Dude, it’s not because you didn’t go to school. It’s because you don’t read the Bible!”

From then on Beth would wave to the tattoo artists as if they were old pals.

The music from across the street was not so grating to her nerves. No more fights broke out. The sidewalk felt safe.

Four months later, Beth took our car in for an oil change and saw Manuel talking to the repairman behind the counter.

As she began to remind him who she was, he stepped forward and gave her a warm hug. “Hey,” he said to his friend behind the counter, “this is my neighbor, the one I was telling you about.”

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Readers Comments

theema wrote: This story actually made me choke up a bit. What a totally loving approach. This is truly what loving thy neighbour is all about. Thank you for inspiring me.
mdadlaza wrote: what a go getter it really changed a life in a spectacular fassion...
charlie wrote: wow you reall do not know nobody untill you go talk to them...Jesus taught us to ``love thy neighbours as thyselves`` amen
njabulo wrote: love your nex door man thats essential..
JuneBug wrote: Wow! She is something special! I'm not sure if I would be able to do what she did...Nice job!
MJ wrote: All we need is love
OLUCHI wrote: love thy neighbour. that word always brings back the bible scenerio to me. your wife indeed showed love to her neighbour by extending a hand of friendship to those guys rather than getting scared of them. thanks joe for sharing the story. God bless
lovebug wrote: I have been thinking a lot about what, Love thy neigbors really means. My husband tells me I am dangerous when I think, I can see his point of view. I am like the salom swimMing up stream. I keep asking questions. My answer always comes back the same. We can't love our neigbors, because we do not know how to love ourselfs. Your wife is your blessing, but take time to ask yourself, was I her inspiration? Although I do not wear a tatoo, I have to admit I have admiration for those who have the courage to wear them. But then I have to admit, it is only thru God's Grace. All those who have crossed my path with tatoo's have been peaceful warriors. Thanks for sharing your wife with me, sounds like she might be a sister salmon.
happyhomemom wrote: VERY COOL!!!!! Loving thy neighbor is easier said then done.
Caratyzna wrote: This is such a great example for all of us. I have a guy living under me who looks kind of scary and plays music really loud into the night..maybe I can work up the courage to try to be friends too.

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