Stories of Kindness from Around the World

Confronting Road Rage With Compassion


--by Megan, posted Oct 26, 2007
I was on my way to the gym this morning and making the right turn from 21st onto Broadway when a car ran up onto me from behind, and started flashing his lights in my rear-view mirror.

He then swings around in front of me and jams on his brakes. I go around him and he gives me the finger and mouths a couple of bad words through the window. I blow him a kiss. He gives me the finger again with even more ferocity and some more dirty mouth-mime.

We get stopped at the next light, side by side and he rolls down his window. I roll down mine. He is a well-groomed, professional looking guy in his 40s. Could have been a lawyer or a doctor or a dad or a teacher. He was driving a newish, nice looking mid-size SUV.  "F*&% you," he says, "You think that you can just pull out into traffic with that Volvo like an a**hole."

Those words didn't make a lot of sense to me, but he probably didn't anticipate having to face me at the stoplight and couldn't think of anything else to say.

I hadn't done anything wrong, and I knew it. He knew it too."You should write a driving manual," I say.  "A**hole," he repeats.  I say, "You know, life will go a lot more smoothly for you if you treat other people with love and kindness instead of anger and hate."

Without skipping a beat, but with a noticeable change in tone, he says, "You're right.  You really are.  I apologize.  I'm sorry."

With that the windows go up, the light turns green, and we pull away.

My blood was pumping from the encounter. I was jolted by the encounter, but couldn't tell if it was the fact that someone would treat me so badly for absolutely no reason or if it was my complete surprised when my words had such a direct and powerful effect on him. Those words just came out of me, naturally, and without thought or planning or with the goal of teaching this guy the error of his ways. Those words just came out.

Later on, after my workout, I wondered who had taught who a lesson there at that stoplight. Had I taught him in that tiny instant that love and kindness were more powerful than hate and anger? Or had he taught me that lesson?  The answer, of course is that we taught each other that lesson.

So it is true, just like they say in the books and tapes: treat the good person with kindness and the bad person with kindness, because your essential nature IS kindness.

You are the other person. You are consciousness.
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Readers Comments

keepsmiling wrote: It was so nice of you Megan to have controled ur temper and speak politely.Not many can do that.All i can say is that
Do not do unto others as you would they should do unto you.
With the measure you use, it will be measured to you—and even more.
keep smiling
kenosha wrote: Nice Job ! it can be hard to react with kindness when someone is comming at you with such anger
Nakamura216 wrote: Great story! I know that kindness will be returned to you! May your days shine with the knowledge that anyone can brighten a day! Keep smiling!
Barbara wrote: great to use with students during our "No Dissing" Week!
megs wrote: Awesome. (: Sounds like you passed the test. Because that's exactly what is was.(:

Meg
MakeSomeoneSmile wrote: Good for you for taking the path you chose. You proved once again that kindness can make a difference. Thanks for making a difference!
fatso wrote: Good moto, keep it up.
akbj wrote: Like the other person said "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" That is what my mom used to teach us, & your story is the best lesson on the power of this that I have heard. Good on you. I bet that man had some food for thought that day also.
speedi wrote: Good job..thats the way to teach them..Bless you:)
blunt wrote: That was very nice of you Megan. I wish more people in this World would have your mind. God bless you for it

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