I Hope I Never Forget To Give Without Being Asked
--by sue5, posted Feb 20, 2015
I've learned that people won't ask for help, but they sure will appreciate it if you jump in and do something helpful. Before you jump in, however, you have to really understand their circumstance and figure out what act or deed would be most helpful.
Out of habit, we often bring casseroles to the sick. Sure it is helpful, but they get too many and their kids don't like what they get so they have to make something else anyway.
So, instead I try to fill in where others aren't - doing laundry, picking up kids from school, including kids in activities etc. I hope I never forget that silence does not mean someone is ok, it just might mean that they don't want to ask for help.
I decided there were enough people who knew i didn't drive. Some knew why, others didn't but did know my not diving was a regular thing, not just temporary due to car break down or something like that. All had a way of contacting me. I decided i wouldn't ask anymore. I waited to see if any offered a ride. They all let me walk. In icy cold weather, late at night, in 107 degree heat, in the midst of hazardous air quality warnings due to wild fires.
I was very hurt, but at the same time it has caused me to be determined that once i'm able to drive again, if i know of someone who needs a ride, i'll be offering. Same with other needs i'm aware of. It stinks to know people are aware of a need but just turn a blind eye (and pray they're not directly asked).