The Invisible Woman
--by hollynamaste, posted Feb 27, 2015
What was hard about losing my hair, though, was that I lost my anonymity with it. After I lost my hair it was like having a tattoo across my forehead that said "chemo patient." I am a very active, athletic person so to have people looking at me with pity as if I was an invalid or a leper was very hard to take. Of course they never said anything, but if I got in an elevator everyone looked away because they didn't know what to say. I didn't blame them, God knows I've done the same thing myself, but it did add insult to the injury I was already dealing with.
The best compliment I ever received was when I was at work one day, wearing my scarf over my bald head, and the UPS guy came in to deliver a package. He looked me right in the eyes and said, "So, are you on chemo?" I said, "Yes, thank you for asking, you are the first person to actually acknowledge that fact." It felt so good to be talked to like a "real" person, without any pity, just the facts, no big deal. I asked him what made him decide to say something and he told me that a woman he works with had just gone through the same thing several months ago.
I had some "gag" business cards that said my job title was "Supreme Commander of the Universe" so whenever this same UPS guy would come in the office to deliver a package he would always say, "Hey, Supreme Commander, how is it going?" My company moved the office to a different building on the other side of town and I hadn't seen the UPS guy in probably 2 years (I think his name was Bryan, I'm not even sure).
I went to answer my door at home one day and there was Bryan with a package. Small world. And do you know what he said? "Hey, Supreme Commander, long time no see!" He sees so many people all day long every day delivering packages but he remembered me after 2 years. What a great compliment! Of course, I remembered him, too, because he was the only person who could see me during that time when I was "the invisible woman."
Only love for this lifetime
That was a wonderful thing for your ups man to acknowledge you and remember after 2 years. People come into our lives for a reason. Who knew it would be a ups man? Keep on being the supreme commander!
Sending you angels to fill every cell of your body and other bodies with light!