Big Heart In A Little Boy
--by mermangel, posted May 3, 2008
On Fridays, my son's kindergarten class has "prize day" when all the children who have maintained good behavior throughout the week get to choose a prize to keep as a reward. The children have behavior cards, which start out green every morning but are changed from green to yellow, orange and finally to red as their behavior declines. The vast majority of these chidren never change their cards from green. As school is dismissed, I am amazed to see the kids streaming out of the front door smiling ear-to-ear holding some inexpensive trinket like it was a gold medal.
On many Fridays, there is one boy, who I'll refer to as "Tommy," who often walks out with an unsmiling face because he has had a difficult day or two that week. From day one "Tommy" would be the first name the children would mention to their parents: "Tommy had a tantrum," or "Tommy woudln't listen to the teacher." Tommy was getting into some sort of trouble every day." Lately, things have become so much better for Tommy, according to my son. He reports proudly each day, "All GREEN today," as if it was a personal or even collective accomplishent (which I suppose it is).
Last night, after I kissed him goodnight, he said he was so excited because tomorrow was prize day. "And I hope, hope, hope that Tommy stays on green!" My heart swelled with pride and my eyes filled with tears. I told my son how sweet I thought it was of him to think of Tommy rather than focusing on his own prize. This is especially heartwarming as Tommy has on occasion called my son names but my husband and I tried to point out that Tommy's behavior was more about Tommy than him and that he should try harder to be understanding. Well, he showed us what understanding really is! I am so proud of both my son and Tommy and I hope one day they will both understand what the real prize was!
god bless you and your son!
Anyway, let me conclude with thanking u, Kathy for the wonderful post.