Stories of Kindness from Around the World

A Professor's Lesson 30 Years Ago

--by amosjwaner, posted Jul 14, 2008

One winter semester during college in upstate New York., I took an 8 AM history class to fulfill a requirement.  It was hard to get up for that class, but about 15 of us met 3 times a week to brave the cold winds and trudge to that lecture in a nondescript classroom.

The professor for the class was an odd fellow.  He had flaming red hair, usually looking slept on, and wore galoshes with one pantleg in and one out.  He would creep shyly into the room wearing his hooded winter coat , once not even removing the hood during the lecture.  He was terribly ill at ease with the class and clutched the lecturn barely looking up at all through his gold rimmed glasses at his students. 

I felt that I needed to do something to stem the boredom that woud ensue in his lecture, so I created a little game for myself.  I would vow to find something in his lecture to ask him an intelligent question about, forcing me to pay attention rather than letting my eyes close.  The first time I raised my hand, you could tell he was suprised and a little reluctant to find out what I wanted.  But he was obviously pleased to have a question to answer.  In fact, his answers were always interesting. 

I continued to do this every day of the course and found myself actually enjoying the material.  The professor seemed to become a bit more relaxed and some of the other students even joined in from time to time.  My little game had saved me from being bored, as it was designed to do.  And, I learned quite a bit about ancient world history in the bargain. The professor obviously knew his material, but had a hard time passing it on to undergraduates in an interesting way.  For all of his odd appearance, he was indeed quite an expert in his field.

But the real lesson I was to learn had yet to happen.  On the last day of class we gathered our books and headed out the door for the last time.  The shy, red-haired professor stepped directly in front of me, with obvious effort,  as I reached the door and put out his hand.  He said, "I want to thank you for making this class so interesting," as he shook my hand vigorously and smiled for the first time.   I was so suprised.  To me, it had been a pleasant way to pass the time in an elective.  I had no idea that all of my question asking had any effect on him or the others at all.  

That moment has stayed with me for 30 years.  Each of us, through the things we say and do, the kindnesses we can freely offer, can have a profound effect not just on our own experiences, but those of others.  I don't recall the facts I learned in his class, but I'll never forget the professor who taught me a lesson about the power of acts of kindness, intended or not.

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Readers Comments

KindMyst wrote: This is a powerful story. You made the best of a difficult learning experience. You stayed positive and everyone came out better. The professor was probably dealing with an anxiety disorder. He was a graceful being as he appreciated your engaged and engaging spirit.
Uzma Altaf wrote: Interesting story. Thanks for sharing it. Asking questions really makes studies interesting and boredom goes out of windows.
Mitzi Egnatz wrote: We are all animators. Our intrest in what each genuinely has to offer sets off the spark within each other.
chandeeswar wrote: The flame of knowledge
Illumines all and spreads it's
Warmth far & wide
Barbara wrote: We all journey through this lifetime as both student and teacher, knowingly or unknowingly, and this story is a profound reminder of that truth. The best way to experience this is to generously give to others what we most need ourselves, and through giving we also receive. It is an infinite and powerful cycle!

Dr. B .
Upgeya wrote: One of the most profound things to see about this story is that by valuing and taking care of our own needs, in a way that doesn't block others from similar self-care, we actually contribute to others. This is a reflection of the inherent connectedness of all life.
Charles Acquah wrote: This is very touching and i love it. We are have to have others-first mentality. Thank you so much for this lesson
James wrote: I did a similar thing at an automotive electrical class over thirty years ago. The result was the same except that as the weeks went by it became apparent, to me, that my questions were having a very positive effect. I have never forgotten the experience and have recounted it to my children and some fellow students over the years. I have, on a couple of occasions, had the oportunity to repeat this in similar circustances and always with the same positive result.
Odirile wrote: Yaa ne! You got me thinking and very much inspired
sherin wrote: Thank u. Great one

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