The Joy in Receiving From My Daughter
--by momov3, posted Sep 3, 2010
My daughter and I are very much alike. We are both determined, independent-minded women who are out to make a difference in this world. As wonderful as it is to be so similar, it has also at times creates riffs in our home as we both always want to be the one in charge. On top of that, throw in the fact that she is 18 (and anyone who has raised at least one daughter to adulthood will know what I mean- moods, drama and the like) and it has created a less than desirable relationship between us at times.
This weekend, we took a trip to visit her college of choice. The trip involved a lot of organisation, we had to take 2 airplanes, rent a car and stay at a hotel. Traveling has never been one of my favorite things to do - especially when it involves a very short layover between flights and a very large airport. On this trip, I got sick on this trip and wasn't able to move as quickly as I usually do.
All my daughter knew was that I had an upset stomach and some minor aches and pains. She took it upon herself to grab my luggage and carry it, leaving me with only one bag to carry. She then stopped at a little kiosk and purchased stomach medication and other things to settle my stomach - with her own money and all without being asked. I was really touched by this.
I frequently tell my family that opportunities always arise for us to be kind and helpful if only we keep our eyes open and are aware of situtations. It felt so good to be the recipient of this small kindness. So many of us like to be the "givers", but remember - when we receive, the one giving is likely being blessed just as much as we are.
A wonderful elderly African American gentleman, Henry, someone I had met quite a while ago said something to me that has stuck with me till this day. If you are trying to be kind - no matter how large or small the act is, and the receiver is being reluctant, Henry would say, "Now, don't you go robbin' me of a blessin' " meaning of course, the giver is being blessed just as much as the receiver. I've used his phrase countless times, and I hope he is smiling down from heaven when I say it because Henry, I've learned a lot from you and especially that phrase and most everyone who had been reluctant changed their minds and usually added a smile along with it.
I love that saying by your friend. That's one to remember as I often am resistant to being a recipient of "charity" - but now I'll look upon it differently and called it a "gift". :) Have a sunshine day!
Your daughter has learned nicely from you....You must be proud.
I hope she liked the college.
Thank you for sharing your experience with us! :)
Thank you for sharing your insights.