--by mpghome2, posted Jul 2, 2014
I did not want my daughter to be someone who did things just to be popular but confident in her own shoes and following her own likes, ambitions.
I have done activities from the Dove Movement for Self Esteem and then a friend shared Awkward Years Project. Women submit a picture of themselves, now, holding pictures of themselves during the awkward part of their lives. They write a bit about how their life was and how it turned out, always a positive uplifting twist.
My daughter and her friends love checking the website and discuss how they identify with the women who have shared. I shared about the end of 5th grade when my mother convinced me to cut my hair short... Oh, how awful it turned out, and right before I started middle school! I retreated, winced at a few teases.
But many years later, I realized that it made me drawn to people who became my friends because of who I was and not what I looked like... and me toward them, for the same reason!
I also became a mom who respected her daughter's likes and guided her towards decisions but never forced them on her, especially ones that have no affect on the type of person she'll be.