My Second Chance To Be a Parent
--by tonigirl, posted May 30, 2007
On April 28 2001, my youngest sister was killed in a random drive by shooting. Her 3 youngest sons went to live with my surviving sister but were never happy there; I wanted to gain the gaurdianship options from my sister but didn't want to risk fracturing our family even more.
A couple of weekends ago, though, my sister called and said the boys (17 yrs & 15 yrs) could no longer live with her and that their only options was either foster care or living with me. There is no way I was going to miss this chance. Still, my nephews were accustomed to living in the big city and I live in a suburb, 45 minutes from the city and I knew that convincing them was going to take some negotiating. But I did it.
Today, they have been with me going on two weeks and they are more relaxed. They even seem happy.
My children are grown and they have left the house. Personally, I am in the process of a contentious divorce and many of my friends says, "You know it's a lot of responsibility to to be a "psuedo parent"; plus, you are still young and isn't this the time to make your own life?" They are right, but what greater gift can I have been given, than the opportunity to so deeply serve the life of another?
To be honest, I'm not even sure if the kindness came from me to my nephews or the other way around.
i dont think youll ever regret this decision.like a quote i read sometime back - "you can serve the world,one person at a time." thats what youre doing.