--by PamelaJo, posted Oct 12, 2007
I had a friend that every time you walked in her door for a visit, her greeting was "Hi Honey". She had a way of saying it by dragging it out as she said it, that made me feel like she was so glad to see me. We met several years ago when her husband was admitted to our Hospice program. I got in on that admission as I was on call the Saturday he was admitted. We hit it off right away, and my friendship with her continued even after her husband died.
We visited together once or twice a week, never for very long, but always with sincere joy in one another's presence. She had told me that when she got ready for Hospice care, she would let me know and we could admit her. Sure enough, one day she told me it was time. We continued to have visits together as she slowly declined in health. We talked about many things, and she would give me chocolate as I would bring her spinach and sardines. I know, not exactly an equal trade but it was what she had asked me to do- seems she found great comfort in eating those two things when nothing else was tasting good.
One particular day as my friend was beginning to decline physically, I felt the need to say aloud to her that I loved her. (Credit Dr Ira Byock's book- The Four Things That Matter Most). Her reply to me sticks with me even to this day....She said- "I know you love me, you have shown me you love me by everything you have done for me; you have not only told me, you have shown me and that makes all the difference"
May those you love know beyond the shadow of a doubt that you do. It makes all the difference.
You are a blessing and a shining example for all! Thank you!
I think of her everyday. Thank you for your beautiful story.
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