I had just passed a car with its flashers on, as I thought to myself, "why don't I stop to help?" That happens often. After about 200 ft, I pulled over. I trotted back to the disabled car and saw a gentleman, who looked to have taken 80 laps around the sun, getting ready to give up on changing his tire. I asked him if I could help and he excitedly accepted. He was having trouble loosening the lug nuts. I said how they (mechanics) tend to torque on the nuts way too tight. Fortunately, I was able to loosen them; I had to rely on my entire body weight for one! After loosening them, I asked if he needed anymore help and he replied, "No, I have it from here. Thank you!" My question to me (I often talk to myself:)) is always "why?" Why did I stop? Nowadays I find myself driving ... Read Full Story >>
I was feeling a bit overwhelmed with some not-so-good thoughts of others yesterday. Between the TV personalities and shows (on at the home where we were visiting) that spew reasons on why we should be negative and a friend’s personal conflict with a life direction, I could feel myself starting to slip down that slope myself. How easy it is to get sucked into the drama and turbulent clouds! Keeping focused on the love that connects us all can be a challenge? You bet! I remembered that I had the choice either to dwell on that thought which I didn’t agree with, or to refocus my attention onto a better thought. I chose to surround all with Love and Peace, instead of not. Further I thought, I needed to do an hands on job to rise myself to higher thought vibrations. A job that would occupy my body, mind and spirit (I had already done yoga ... Read Full Story >>
Last evening I was strolling down a somewhat busy street. As it was afternoon time the street was not crowded. For many years I have seen a handicapped man on his cart who does not have legs below his waist. As I was nearing him, a well dressed man just made his way from behind and reached out his hand to this man and said "Happy new year buddy." The man reluctantly reciprocated but acknowledged his wishes. This well-dressed man simply rather very casually asked the beggar "So what would you like to have?" and the beggar said, " Maybe a cheese sandwich?" This person then walked into the nearby bakery and got him some nice fresh sandwiches. The man said "Thank you" with all glow on his face and the man that offered him these sandwiches just gracefully disappeared in the crowd again. I witnessed all this from a distance and it dawned to ... Read Full Story >>
I found out that a young mother at my daughter's daycare has cancer, and is going through some intensive treatments. So, I decided to express some kindness to her. Since I am not a good cook, I picked up a frozen lasagna and garlic bread, wrote her a card and COURAGE rock and sent it to her.
A friend is waiting for her mother to die (hospice) at her home. Her brothers and sisters and young daughter are all staying around her as her final days continue. We had no idea what to do as with every family the journey is personal- so my son and I bought fruit to make a salad and fresh juice with biscuits, so they would have some nourishment. When I dropped it off this am early, my friend came to the door with "I have to get back in there."
I was startled but realized she is going through agony right now. She later texted she has been up for days not wanting to leave her mother to die alone. Sending peace my friends- we all die alone but are not.
There is a thrill, a connection that goes deeper, with every origami Peace dove I release. The combination of energy that goes into its creation from choosing the paper, folding, threading the hanger, printing/cutting and inserting a blessing into the wing, it ALL adds up to some powerful stuff. As we touristed in Chicago yesterday, from hotel to the Field Museum, Adler Planetarium, and a short walk along the lakefront, doves flew from my purse into the hands of so many! To name a few of them: A taxi driver, originally from Tajikistan, has been here in USA for 12 years, and his friendly manner and exchange of family questions started our day with smiles. Andy, the admissions agent at the Field Museum, that opened his palms in a cupping motion, when I gave him a dove. (I have been experiencing this lately, as the dove recipient is making a sacred space to ... Read Full Story >>
I see that the opportunity for random acts of kindness is all around us. Here are a few simple acts that I did as I went by my day.
I let the hurtful words of another person roll off me without reacting to it, and thus avoided an argument. I remained at peace.
I caught up with two old friends via text and phone and had some light moments of laughter.
I chatted with the pharmacist about possible side effects of a new medicine and thanked him for his time.
I made an origami peace dove from the last calendar page of the YMCA and gave it to the receptionist.
I allowed some kind people to hold the door open for me.
I thanked my nail technician for doing such a a great job and also gave her a bit extra on her tip.
I drove politely and responsibly and let a few cars go ahead of me, as I waited patiently.
Performing these simple kind acts, can set an example to others and it could lead to a kinder society.
I thank you all for listening to my slice of life.
A mother of a friend recently fell and cracked bones in her neck.
While in hospital she received a pacemaker, I made her a fleece shawl to keep her shoulders warm while recovering.
She received it yesterday and called with almost overwhelming gratitude.
I'm glad such a small effort on my part made her day happier.
I enjoyed some cleaning work with children today.
Yesterday, it was a full day of raining in our city. And it made everything wet and soggy. Especially, the play grounds are so wet. And children love the playgrounds so much.
So, today, I did cleaning works with children. We did sweeping, digging, dragging, putting the dry soil on wet places, making pitch, cutting the grass.
It was so much labor work.
But we enjoyed it and I also got an opportunity to see the children's real love and energy for sports and creativity. They enjoyed all of the work and they finished it very smartly and positively. They are real heroes...
Thanks to all of them!
A personal, long-time friend hurt me deeply this week. I've only shared the details with my wife and my mother. I had a dream about it the night after the incident. Guess it was because it was so deep in my subconscious. Didn't realize it had affected me like that. Then, today, out of the blue, I got a message from a different childhood friend that I've known maybe since 40 years. We hung out in many of the same circles, but we haven't talked in decades. In the message she tells me I'm an amazing person and an inspiration to others and that people should tell me how awesome I am on a regular basis. This was so unexpected, but it came at the perfect time, right after I was hurt by someone from that same era. I'm posting this to tell you that your kind words may mean far more than you ... Read Full Story >>
Recently I visited my former high school teachers over Christmas Break to see how they were doing and to catch up. I visited my school counselor as well. It struck me that many students forget to think about their former school counselors and support staff who helped them get to where they are today.
I talked to my former guidance counselor about how my first semester of college went and how well I am doing. He really helped me in my senior year of high school so I thought that paying him a visit would be a great act of kindness.
As I was leaving the guidance office, I heard one guidance counselor say, "I feel like they forget about us once they graduate." And my heart felt so big, knowing that I thought to visit them. I am in my first year of university now. I could really see how happy my teachers were to see that I had visited them.
I have a San Diego Zoo membership. This membership comes with 4 passes to share with others. Each year towards the end of the year I typically still have 3-4 passes left as my membership also includes bringing a friend. Several years ago I decided, instead of recycling them, I would go to the zoo with a friend on Thanksgiving or Christmas and give them away. The people have to walk in with me so I have to be there in person. San Diego has a lot of visitors from all over the world. The first year I gave them to a young family from somewhere in Asia (don't remember exactly). They were the most modest for sure. The second year I gave them to a Guatemalan family. That was exciting because I got to talk to them about my time in Guatemala in the past. This Christmas I gave them to a family ... Read Full Story >>
Two wonderful acts of kindness this week to share.
My husband lost his phone and I rang it. He had dropped it on a train. Someone found it and sent me a text that they were going to hand it in at the first stop on the route. We collected it yesterday and
so grateful that it turned up.
The other was a friend of my daughter (who is still struggling) turned up at our house and took her to the airport to watch the planes to land and take off. She was smiling when she came home. x
The weather was a nice -2 C yesterday.
So I made the most of this opportunity by repairing and putting up some poly on windows for an elder who had been getting sick because of broken windows. That way, she will not get sick again, I hope.
This week, I made her and another elder some fresh bannock for their supper.
I also spent some time visiting and helping to carry around twin girls, 2 months old, so cute.
Then, I went to go help another family at a wake. This is part of what I do, being there for those who lost a family member - I think it's important.
In other actions, I helped carry groceries for an elder to her vehicle, made food to surprise others, helped visitors to my community, fed neighbor's dogs when they weren't home for 3 days. Just generally, I went around being a positive force and energy for others...for peace.
When I can, I volunteer at my animal rescue shelter on holidays, like Christmas.
Usually, the managers work this shift alone so other workers can have the time with family and friends.
I go unannounced with treats for the animals and the staff. I make sure to let everyone working that day know how much I appreciate what they do for the lives of homeless animals. And I clean kennels, feed animals and try to give a loving touch and kind words to each animal before I leave.
I always leave with a heart so full and light; the best present I can give myself.
Today I practiced kindness in a small but meaningful way. I took my 12 year daughter for a walk on the river behind where we live.
We spent 30 minutes walking along the banks and picking up litter and cigarette butts. I was also able to connect with my daughter in a very authentic way (which is hard to do with preteens) and connect with nature.
It was a kindness for the earth, for my daughter and for myself!
Yesterday, I spent the day at my child’s sporting event running the snack bar. At the end of the evening, the event organizers were going to throw away the left over hotdogs and hamburger buns, chips, salsa, cheese, etc.
Instead I took them home. We spent the evening making cheese sandwiches and packing ziploc bags of chips. We then went to an area where a lot of homeless people live and handed out sandwiches and chips for an evening meal (about 40 meals total) and spent some time chatting with a couple of people.
It was so fulfilling to to witness the appreciation and gratitude for a full belly. They were happy not only to have some food, but grateful for the opportunity to have a conversation and be treated like anyone else. I was thankful to have met some new friends and for the opportunity to help my fellow humans.
I usually donate blood on my birthday, but I gave too recently. so, today I decided to do something a little different. I turned 51 today. So, I put 51 one-dollar bills in my pocket and surprised people around town: • Bought a Starbucks coffee for a man. • Later, bought another for a woman. • Gave a few bucks to a man asking for money on the street. • Paid for a man buying coffee for him and a friend at a different coffee house. • Bought Boba milk tea for a couple. • Paid for Taco Bell dinner for a couple. • Gave the last few bucks to the guy behind the counter at Taco Bell. Some were hesitant to accept at first until I told them that was how I was celebrating my birthday. I got a lot of "Thank you"s and ""Happy Birthday"s. My favorite part is all in my head. I imagine the story ... Read Full Story >>
I went to get my driver’s license renewed.
A young man came in wanting to get his license reinstated.
He couldn’t. Apparently he had outstanding child support. The clerk told him to first apply for an ID.
The man whom I assumed was out now from jail or corrections and trying to be back in the community became overwhelmed by the unexpected fee he had to pay to get the ID.
He was about to leave the office all together but decided to fill out the application. I went to the clerk and asked her about the fee. She told me; I paid for it and left.
A fleeting thought came in “You are helping a deadbeat dad”, but I quickly reframed to “He just needs some support to get himself back on track.” And had to let go of the outcome. I also got in touch with my gratitude for what I have, my health and my family.
So I wanted the same for this person.
I just went to get money order, pay bill and such at customer service.
A grandma with her 2 granddaughters were behind me. We were making conversation and laughing. When I was finally done, I handed each of the girls $5.
I said it's not much, but Merry Christmas. The older one was in shock. (Maybe 10 yrs old) I wrapped my arm around each one and gave a hug. They were so happy and said thank you.
As I walked away, the older one said to her grandma: "Grandma, I'm going to cry."
Her grandma said: "you are?"
She said: "Yes, I'm going to cry."
I felt so happy to make them happy.