I work with a physicians group in a small community hospital. There is no cafeteria or food service available to the night shift staff, and when things get crazy the nurses often go without a meal or even a snack.
Last night I bought ten candy bars from a student (his mom left the box at work to sell). When things got crazy, I handed out chocolate bars. From their reactions, you would think I had given them a steak dinner! Chocolate delivered with a smile does the soul good.
Sometimes it is just about hearing another person's journey and not judging. I let someone I know quite well, talk about the hardships of their day and then we joined a singing group and sang our hearts out for 2 hours - superb healing!
1. Give money you can spare to someone who needs it and then pretend you never had it. 2. Let someone tell a story without feeling the need to one-up them or tell your own. 3. Let someone vent, even if you can’t offer a solution, just to be an ear—without considering how well they listened to you last week. 4. Help someone who is struggling with difficult feelings by admitting you’ve felt the same thing—without considering whether they’d be as open with you. 5. Ask, “What can I do to help you today?” Then let it go after following through. 6. Tell someone how you feel about them, even if it makes you feel vulnerable, just to let them know they’re loved and not alone. 7. Apologize when you’ve acted selfishly, even if you don’t like feeling wrong, because it will remind the other person they deserve to be treated with respect. 8. Let someone else ... Read Full Story >>
Today I thanked my children's teachers for all that they do. Both my children come home smiling and happy. What a comforting feeling as a parent.
Their teachers put in countless hours and a I gave my children's teacher a gift "just because", and it seemed just right! I gave one teacher a gift certificate to a painting place, and the other teacher a gift certificate to TeachersPayTeachers.com. It made me feel good to give some gifts! :)
Wednesday morning, September 11, the first day of the 21-Day Challenge: I said "good morning" and smiled at every person I saw. Out of dozens of people I passed on my morning run, one lady walking her dog, smiled back. Another person, stationary, to whom I said "good morning", smiled and returned my greeting.
Even with such modest returns, it felt good to start my day offering good cheer and reminding myself and others that we're all connected.
Yesterday afternoon in St. Louis Mo it was rainy and light snow. While pumping gas, a young man approached me and asked if he could pump my gas for a dollar so he could get something to eat.
At that moment the pump stopped, my tank was full. I asked him to meet me at the Burger King across the street. At this time he informed me that the manager had asked him to stay away, as he was begging.
I went in, talked to the manager, explained that I was going to buy him a meal, and would they let him stay long enough to eat his meal. The manager agreed. I purchased his meal, and thanked the manager by telling her she'd done a good thing and also gave her a smile card and a Hershey Kiss!
I sent my "Adopt a Soldier" a letter today because it is 9/11. I just sent him a Thank You card for all he does, including fighting for my freedom. I also put 12 more Thank You notes in the envelope, for him to hand out to any soldiers who could use a smile, or a piece of mail.
One day I worked a difficult 8 our shift behind the customer service counter at a high-end retailer. I had decided to make a conscious effort to improve the day of everyone I engaged with. Putting all my problems aside and focusing on spreading joy really alleviated my stress and worry. Having numerous people tell me they really appreciated me felt good. One of my bosses told me it's always good to have my energy around.: ) Consciousness and kindness really do pay off.
Every so often an especially insightful book prompts me to reflect on or change my behavior, attitudes or both. Years ago, after reading “Type A Behavior and Your Heart” by two San Francisco cardiologists, Dr. Meyer Friedman and Dr. Ray H. Rosenman, I learned to reduce stress and hostility by cramming less into my days and allowing adequate time to accomplish whatever I had to do. I just read another book, newly published, that could help many of us cope with life’s inevitable obstacles. It is “The Gift of Adversity,” by Dr. Norman E. Rosenthal, 63, the psychiatrist who first described seasonal affective disorder and how to treat it with light. The book is a kind of memoir with a twist: a series of autobiographical stories with life-changing lessons gleaned from nearly six decades of challenging events he and others experienced. Instead of stumbling blocks, the events became opportunities to step in ... Read Full Story >>
I finished my community service requirement last year by working in the school library.
All the librarians are women over 65 and most have trouble shelving books on the upper shelves. So, I decided to work for another year to help them out because most of the volunteers from last year are not coming back.
The librarian was so happy she bought a whole can of peanut butter cups so I can have one every week!
I accompanied my dad to an appointment today. When his electric scooter ran out of power someone helped get him a wheel chair and I pushed him to his appointment.
Once there, I helped by providing bits and pieces of information that he couldn't remember and was simply there to support him when he needed me.
Today, I went downtown to play music with my new singing friend. We sang songs we have not practiced, and though I was nervous, it felt so good, I kept singing.
At the end, a woman who had been close, thanked me. She said her dad passed a few years back and today was his birthday. Every year on this day, she walks around open to whatever needs to happen. This time, she said, it was us. I did not realize I was being kind to anyone.
She told us, weepy eyed, that us sharing our voices was an amazing gift. She thanked me saying I had really given her something by choosing to sing for everyone to hear. I was just doing what I love!
Thank you for this beautiful affirmation - I feel so gifted. This was everything I needed to hear.
I found myself in the city for work today. On my lunch break I decided to walk around the public gardens. It was one of those unusually warm September days, 90+ degrees and humid, but it felt good after being in the air-conditioning all morning. That is until I walked past two individuals, sweaty and asleep, on a park bench together. What appeared to be all their belongings were in a few bags scattered around them. I continued walking but kept thinking about the pair on the bench. So, I went to Starbucks and purchased five bottles of cold water. Then I returned to the park. First stop was the couple on the bench. I woke the gentleman up and asked if they were ok. Sleepily, he assured me they were fine, but he gratefully accepted two bottles of water. The third bottle went to a man playing his violin by the remembrance garden. ... Read Full Story >>
Today, after having my 5th grade students share stories about what makes them smile, I shared the 21-day kindness challenge with them. They were super excited!
I had them write down kindness ideas in their journal.
As soon as school ended students were coming back into the class to secretly slip mechanical pencils and other small gifts into other students' desks!
One student came up to me and gave me a hug and said, "This is just the beginning!" The kindness ripples have begun!
Several years ago I was at an informal business meeting/luncheon with my manager. She paid for her meal and went to find us a table. When I attempted to pay for mine, the card declined was declined twice.
I was mortified, so I took my items and stepped to the side while others got their meals. I didn't have enough cash to pay for anything other than a drink, so I went back to the cashier to at least get that. Before I could say anything, she smiled kindly and said that someone (who just left) had already paid for my lunch.
I cannot begin to tell you how grateful I was for that small act of kindness. I tried to catch them, but they were gone. I've never forgot it. So when I came across the opportunity to help someone last year in the same way, it made me feel really good. Just paying it forward.
I was in Chicago for the weekend visiting my daughter. While I was there I decided to take care of her laundry in the apartment buildings laundry room.
I had some quarters left over when I was done so I left a Tide detergent pod and $1.25 in the washer, and $1.25 in the dryer for the next person.
I placed a sticky note on the machine saying, "Enjoy a free load of laundry. Have a nice day."
I hope the little surprise made the next person's task of doing laundry a little more pleasant.
My daughter recently returned to work from a maternity leave. And things haven't been going well.
She's had calls two out of six days to pick up sick children. Today was her first full day back, so I left a container of her favorite snack in her vehicle.
She called me later, with her mouth full of the sweet snack, saying, "Are you responsible for this?"
Ha-ha! How did she guess?
I work for thrift store and the ladies I work with are great! They make me smile on a daily basis (even when they sometimes make me want to scream.)
However, I had been off work for six weeks and when I returned last week they reminded me every day that I had been missed and they were glad I was back.
It touched me to my soul.
So, I baked them a cake to let them know they were all appreciated! I went to work with a sheet cake and came home with an empty pan!
It was a good day!
At a local bakery/restaurant I gave the cashier some money along with a Smile card. "Please surprise someone by taking care of their order with this today," I said, "and give them this card." Her mouth dropped open. "Really?" she asked. "Really." I replied. "Why are you doing this?" she asked. "To spread a little bit of kindness," I said, "It feels like a good day to share a little bit of extra love." Her face broke into the biggest grin. "This is so beautiful!" I smiled thinking about how she was going to spend the rest of the day looking for that "perfect" person to tag. I had no idea that what went around would come around so quickly. A little while later I stood, looking lost, on a subway platform in Times Square. A suit-clad commuter pulled out his earphones and gently asked, "Where do you need to go?" Then he gave me directions. Soon afterwards I ... Read Full Story >>
I made a special card for a lady who is having to move into an apartment by herself.
Aged 81 this is the first time she has every had to move home. Up until now she has always lived with her mother (who recently died at nearly 100 years of age.)
The card will give her something to open from her new mailbox. And, hopefully, a note that love will make her apartment feel more like a home.